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Got a burning question for the youth of Free to Be? Here’s your chance to ask teens who have made the decision to save sex until marriage. Don’t worry, they’re used to candid questions and are passionate about helping their peers!

We will attempt to answer your question as soon as possible. Leave us your email address and we’ll respond to you directly, or check back periodically and read responses to questions that we’ve received. Ask away…!

Previously asked questions:

  • Isn’t it hard not to have sex?

    • Yes, it’s hard! Resisting sex is difficult, but you can ease some of the pressure by making choices about the kind of people you hang out with and the type of situations you place yourself in. It’s putting off what you want now so that it can be better later; it’s thinking beyond the present.

  • What do you do if your friends pressure you?

    • Actually, many people respect my decision to wait, and while they may not agree with it, they appreciate my commitment. If friends pressure me, I tell them the reasons why I’m abstinent (primarily: to be in control of my future), and try to express that we can vary in opinions and still be friends.

  • If I decide not to have sex, how do I stick to my decision?

    • When you decide to wait, don’t be afraid to take a stand about your decision. Talk about your goals and what seems right for you with the person you are dating. If you don’t agree, maybe you need to find someone whose beliefs are closer to your own. Also, avoid situations where sexual feelings become strong.
    (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Teen Chat, p. 13)

  • What if I Already Had Sex? Is it too late to start over?

    • It’s never too late to make healthy choices. You are worth it! Deciding to start over is the hardest part, but here are some tips to help you stick to it:
    • Value yourself and your decision.
    • Avoid compromising situations.
    • Communicate your standards to your friends.
    • Find nonphysical ways to show you care.
    • Find a keepsake as a daily reminder of your decision
      U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Teen Chat, p. 13)

  • My friends have sex and don’t have any regrets. What’s the big deal?

    • According to one study, two thirds of teens who have sexual intercourse wish they had waited. (Albert, Bill. With One Voice: America's Adults and Teens Sound Off About Teen Pregnancy. Washington, DC: National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, 2004.) Even if sexual activity doesn’t result in an STD or pregnancy, there are emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual consequences that can really affect your life. Making the decision to save sex for marriage is the only choice that eliminates risk.